Getting a Divorce: How to Prove Desertion

Last updated on May 24, 2017

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One day, your spouse walked out of the house and never came back.

You waited.

And waited.

But your spouse didn’t return.

It took you some time, but you’ve finally overcome your grief. You’ve decided to file for divorce.

There are a few ways of proving irretrievable breakdown of marriage so as to get a divorce. One way is to prove that your spouse has deserted you (note: and not the other way round).

What is “Desertion”?

Under the Women’s Charter, which provides for the law on divorce, “desertion” implies an abandonment of one party against his or her wishes.

In the context of divorce, this means that the deserting spouse has completely rejected the marital relationship.

Minimum Period of Desertion

Before the court will grant a divorce, the deserted spouse must prove that he/she has been deserted for a continuous period of at least 2 years before filing for divorce.

“Continuous” desertion for at least 2 years does not mean that the desertion must have happened for 2 years straight. The 2 years can include “breaks”, of up to 6 months in total, where the parties continued to live together. For example, where the deserting spouse returned to the household for some time before leaving again.

However, these “breaks” have to be made up so that there has been a total desertion period of 2 years.

Proving Desertion

To prove desertion:

  1. The parties must have been physically separated; and
  2. The deserting spouse must have had the intention to desert his/her spouse.

Physical separation

Desertion can only be proved with physical separation and not any other type of separation.

Here, physical separation refers to the parties living in separate households. This is different from living in separate houses, or even sleeping in different bedrooms of the same house. Rather, the parties have to keep separate households.

For example, parties who sleep in separate houses can still be considered as living in the same household if they spend their waking hours together.

Intention to desert

The deserted spouse must also be able to prove that his/her spouse had the intention to desert him/her. The intention to desert is commonly understood as an intention to “bring the matrimonial union permanently to an end”.

More importantly, the intention to desert must be non-consensual. This means that parties cannot use the fact that they had agreed to live apart to get a divorce on the basis of desertion.

That said, the intention to desert can still form even after parties agreed to live apart. One example of this is where the parties have separated and one spouse later expresses the intention to cohabitate again, but the other refuses. Only at this point will that other spouse then be considered to have the intention to desert.

Finally, desertion implies the breakdown of a common household by one spouse even though this was not required by his/her personal circumstances. Therefore, there is no intention to desert if the parties’ situation required them to live apart, such as one spouse going overseas for work or further studies.

Difference between Separation and Desertion

It is important to appreciate the difference between separation and desertion since they form different facts for proving irretrievable breakdown of marriage under the Women’s Charter.

Separation occurs when a couple is legally married but live apart from each other. It is the most appropriate fact for proving irretrievable breakdown of marriage when neither party is at fault for their marriage breaking down. Separation can occur anytime, with the parties agreeing to do so.

On the other hand, desertion is essentially non-consensual separation. The line between separation and desertion is therefore whether there was an intention to desert.

As mentioned above, desertion occurs when one has been abandoned by his/her spouse. This mean that the parties are separated not by agreement, but because one spouse has chosen to leave his/her spouse against his/her wishes.

Being deserted can be a traumatic experience. However, it is not the end of the road. You can choose to start anew.

If you need legal advice on getting a divorce from your spouse, whether on the fact of desertion or another fact, feel free to get in touch with one of our trusted divorce lawyers.

You can also check out our comprehensive guide to divorce fees in Singapore.

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  12. Separation in Singapore
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  4. Simplified Uncontested Divorce vs Contested Divorce in Singapore
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  3. What Happens to Property and Assets Located Overseas Upon a Divorce in Singapore?
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  6. Maintenance of Spouse in a Singapore Divorce
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  8. How the Court Divides Matrimonial Assets in a Singapore Divorce
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